Time to reveal a little bit of what I’m going through right now. And this is where the show “ED” comes in.
I am, or we are, or my wife and I are undergoing a somewhat messy separation/custody battle right now. Messy in the building up to the actual separation itself. But now, everything is quiet.
It appears that we acted like WWE wrestlers leading up to the separation. All the trash talk, all the BS leading up the the main event which eventually fizzled out. Guess who retained his title belt?
Everthing went according to MY plan. I retained the belt, the prize– my two kids. Everything else, the appliances, the other stuff, are all secondary.
For my wife, she ran a failed experiment. “What if I mess with my husband and try to cheat him for everything he’s got?” she asked.
She got an answer and a lesson: NEVER MESS WITH A LAWYER!!!!
Right now, she she’s back to where she started six years ago. From the proverbial mattress, she got demoted to the dungeon floor, with cases breeding down her neck.
For me, I ran a neutral experiment. “What if I enter into a marriage where only one party is prepared and/or capable?” You get mixed results. Some parts you regret, like all the hurt. Some parts you cherish, like beautfil kids like the ones I have now. Over-all, I got neutral results because, I think, the prepared/capable party and the one who is not cancelled each other out.
For my kids? The greatest of experiments is just unfolding:
To find out how two children, a six year old girl and a year old boy would fare in life with a disadvantage (having only one parent)
One (1) unit devoted father
Several units of equally supportive and loving extended family
Several units of equally capable and supportive friends
Countless units of love and attention
One (1) unit overriding faith in God and that all will be well in the end
Mix them up and observe results.
Yet to be determined.